Bad News-Good News. Keep Your Chin Up, Mary!

DFH Volume 1 Issue 25

By Jim Dayton

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FIRST THE BAD NEWS—My sister, Mary Fuller, daughter of Paul and Ruth Dayton, has been homebound for many years, suffering several painful conditions. Nearly 35 years ago she was in an automobile accident which left her with excruciating back pain. Then about 30 years ago, she was stricken with fibromyalgia, a debilitating disease which amplifies pain to nerve endings.  A simple, light touch to the body can cause major pain.  It has left her in a wheelchair most of the time. Despite this, she tried to get to church each Sunday, and she usually did.  She got out to go to the doctor, and sometimes to dinner.  Then in November 2018, she was diagnosed with bone cancer in her shoulder and upper arm.  They successfully replaced bone with metal, and that completely removed that pain.  In the spring of 2019, they discovered a small cancerous spot on her back.  During the surgery to remove it, they damaged a nerve which extended down her leg all the way to her toes.  As a result, that damage incapacitated her leg.  She now uses either a walker or wheelchair for every mobile moment.

NOW THE GOOD NEWS—Fortunately, some outdoor mobility has returned.  She still uses a wheelchair or walker for every moving moment, but, her wonderful, caregiving husband, Bill Fuller, recently added a lift chair to their porch stairs.  She is still in a wheelchair and the pain hasn’t subsided, but now she is able to get to a car and regain some freedom.  She’s been to her hairdresser. It’s no longer an ordeal to go to a doctor’s appointment.  She’s been to restaurants.  And most importantly, she can go to church again.  Bill is thrilled to see Mary “on the go,” if only a very small go-at-a-time.  All is still not rosy, but it’s a major improvement in her quality of life.  I’m sure she would love to hear from her Dayton relatives.  You can reach her at 28 Oak St., Corinth, NY, 12822.  She may be too ill to answer, but she wants you to know that she loves her Dayton extended family.


Ruth Dayton’s World Class Macaroni and Cheese

DFH Volume 1 Issue 18

My mom’s macaroni and cheese recipe is second to none.  She made it for every pot-luck dinner.  It was the first dish to be emptied every time.  You wanted to be towards the front of the line to get any.  My brother-in-law, Bill Fuller, has carried on the tradition and has disclosed the secret recipe.  Here it is:

  • 1 lb. Elbow Macaroni-precooked
  • 20 oz. Extra Sharp Cheese, grated
  • 1-2 cups saltine cracker crumbs-fully crushed with rolling pin (1 full sleeve)
  • milk
  • salt/pepper to taste
  • margarine

Use large casserole dish, layer 1/3 macaroni, salt/pepper, 1/3 cheese & just enough crumbs so cheese is not visible. Repeat layers twice more. Just before last crumbs, slowly pour in milk about ½ way up casserole dish. Top with remaining crumbs.  Generously dot top with margarine.  Bake at 375° for 45-55 minutes.

There are lots of calories and cholesterol, but worth it occasionally.