Jim Dayton’s Recollection’s of Growing Up

One of the Dayton-Family-History readers wrote to me, “Here’s a question for you… what was your recollection of growing up in a family of 5 kids?  What memories stick out to you?  Was the age gap a big deal? We’re you close as kids?”

I don’t remember any complicated or unpleasant consequences. Our living, eating, clothing and transportation resources seemed routine.  I guess when you don’t know differently, then what exists is normal.  I suppose our ancient Daytons felt normal living in a two room home back in the 1600’s on long Island. Anyway, our Paul Dayton family of seven lived in a small three bedroom, one bathroom home. I don’t remember it being more inconvenient than other homes I lived in later in life.  I’ll admit it was an inconvenience needing to use the toilet when someone else was using it.  There were no disasters…you accepted all circumstances. 

Meals were at a table built for four (with one leaf) in a very small kitchen, but we ate as much as we wanted and never went away hungry.  We had a larger dining room table with seating for 8, but that was saved only for company. Later on, Judy and I had 2 girls living in a home with 2 ½ baths, 3 bedrooms, large living room, den, kitchen with large breakfast nook and dining room, but we were no more or less crowded than in my growing up house.

Growing up,  our car was a 2 door Ford Fairlane coupe.  It didn’t seem crowded even though there were 3 persons in front and 4 in the rear.  I have a video of everyone getting out of the car.  It looks like a circus clown comedy drill, but we tolerated the accommodations well.  However, once having upgraded, that becomes the new norm and you can’t go back without great inconvenience. 

My life was sports.  The role of a mother as a taxi driver didn’t exist.  I made my own arrangements to get home after practice.  Most of the time it involved walking home.  After football practice, I walked home with a friend who still had about 6 miles to go.  He hitchhiked or walked, after he had walked with me for ¾ miles. It was normal for him.

The age gap for the children in our family was 13-years from oldest to youngest sibling.  We were never a close, touchy-feely family.  The older you get, the smaller the age gap and the bigger in closeness and adoration.  I’m 72 years old and closer to my siblings than ever before… especially my brother who is 9 years my younger.  I didn’t know him growing up.

I was closest to my older sister mostly because of parental intervention.  My parents expected me, as a 10 to 13 year old, to be a protective escort for Mary.  My dad insisted on it. My sister enjoyed taking evening walks after sundown and going to the local diner to hang out with friends from town and out of town. They hung out at a table, drinking coffee and listening to the jukebox for a couple hours at a time. Mary always was telling me to stand erect so I would look taller.  The point is, we got to know each other a little.  My playmates were always neighborhood friends my age. 

I can only vividly remember two instances of direct interaction with my brothers.  I suspect there was daily happy interaction, but it was normal, not memorable. 

I haven’t done these questions justice in this brief account.  I wrote an autobiography for my family a few years ago, and it took about 15 chapters to answer the growing up questions.  I would highly recommend that each of you write or “video” an autobiography so your descendants can carry on your legacy to future generations.

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A Biographical Summary of the Life of Donald W. Dayton

by Deane Dayton and Jim Dayton

Just as his father, Wilber Jr. did before him, Donald Dayton raised the bar of Christian Evangelical thought, understanding and teaching to new heights.  He did so on an academic plane that very few Professors, and dignitaries of the faith have the mind and skills to accomplish.  He equipped influential evangelicals throughout the world with the academic knowledge to face its challenges.  He was a “mover and shaker” in Christian Evangelical Academia.

The Paul Dayton family had the privilege of spending Christmas with Wilber’s family in about 1957.  Don would have been about 15 at the time.  When we arrived at their home in Wilmore Kentucky, Don was building a Computer at the kitchen table. In 1957?  He was truly a “beautiful mind.”  

The following is a Biographical Summary provided by his brother Deane Dayton.

Personal Data:

            Name:  Donald Wilber Dayton

            Last Residence:  Pasadena Highlands, 1575E. Washington Blvd., Apt. 813,

 Pasadena, California

            Birth:  August 25, 1942, Chicago, IL

            Death:  May 2, 2020, CA

Family:

            Parents:  Wilber T. (Jr.) and Donna Fisher Dayton

            Wife:  Lucille Sider, married June 9, 1969 in the Yale Divinity School

Chapel, New Haven, Connecticut, (Met at Yale Divinity School, divorced in 1980s)

            Son:  Charles Soren Dayton, born July, 1976

            Siblings: Carol Jo Mayer, Deane K. Dayton, Janet Elizabeth Manley

Education:

            Houghton College, Mathematics & Philosophy, B. A., 1963

            Columbia University, Woodrow Wilson Fellow

            Yale Divinity School, Woodrow Wilson Fellow, B.D., 1969

            Asbury Theological Seminary

            University of Kentucky, Library Science and Bibliography, 1969

            University of Chicago, Ph.D., 1983

Academic and Ecclesiastical Societies:

            President, Wesleyan Theological Society

            President, Societal for Pentecostal Studies

            Vice President, Karl Barth Society of North America

            Member, National Council of Churches, Faith and Order Commission

            Representative, National Council of Churches, Harare WCC Convention     

Academic & Work Experience:

            Asbury Seminary

            Greenville College

            North Park Seminary

            Northern Baptist Seminary

            Drew University

            Azusa Pacific University

The best source I know for his professional life is the book “From the Margins:  A Celebration of the Theological Work of Donald W. Dayton” edited by Christian T. Collins Winn, published in 2007 by one of Don’s students and Friends.  It contains reprints of several of Don’s papers and a few related papers by others.  I think the most interesting part is Don’s “Autobiographical Response” and a Select Bibliography of Don’s publications, pages 383-430.  The Autobiography is an interesting read and provides a lot in insight into Don’s life.  The book is available for purchase from Amazon or free online at: https://books.google.com/books?id=fiD1BgAAQBAJ  .

Tributes to Don have been published by:

The Wesleyan Church: https://www.wesleyan.org/a-tribute-to-donald-dayton

Christianity Today: https://www.christianitytoday.com/ct/2020/may-web-only/donald-dayton-heart-makes-theologian.html

His books include:

The American Holiness Movement: A Bibliographic Introduction.  Wilmore, KY: B. L. Fisher Library of Asbury Theological Seminary, 1971.

Discovering an Evangelical Heritage, New York: Harper & Row, 1976 and subsequent editions.

The Evangelical Roots of Pentecostalism.  Metuchen: Scarecrow, 1987. (Don’s Dissertation)

He also edited or authored dozens of papers, articles, book chapters and volumes.  Partial lists can be found in “From the Margins.” (see pages 381-382, 427-430)

Don was an avid book collector.  A large collection of his books and papers are in the Special Collection of the David Allan Hubbard Library, Fuller Theological Seminary, Pasadena, CA.

The Donald W Dayton Papers, 1980-2004 document Dayton’s involvement in ecumenical activities, such as participation in scholarly associations and formal dialogues with representatives from differing forms of Christianity. Material formats include Dayton’s published and unpublished essays, correspondence, conference materials, and photographs. The archival collection supplements Fuller Theological Seminary’s purchased acquisition of Donald Dayton’s 22,000 volume library in 1991. The book collection includes strong sub-collections in Holiness and Pentecostal studies, American Evangelicalism, Abolitionism, and Barth studies. The Dayton library was integrated into the Fuller Theological Seminary main collection is available to researchers through local interlibrary loan systems.

The White Family Fishermen

The White’s were fishermen. 

I found an old newspaper article about Alexander (Jessie’s dad) catching 400 pounds of Pickerel.  Holy Mackerel, that’s a lot of pickerel. That’s a serious fisherman. That’s a lot of fish fries.

But it doesn’t end there.  Aunt Flossie (Wilber and Jessie’s daughter) weighed in on this subject too.  She said about her grandma White (Anna), “She loved to fish.”, so it was a family thing. 

As far as I know, fishing ended with the elder White’s. None of Wilber’s family, incuding Jessie, were fishermen. I imagine Jessie knew how to fish and was good at it, but there was no extra time while raising a large family.

If you are a fisherman…leave a comment.

Deer In The Notch

The Dayton brothers loved to hunt deer.  Chip and Paul played “hooky” from work a couple times each fall to hunt, and they hunted most Saturdays and Thanksgiving day.  They never hunted on a Sunday, but their minds may have drifted there during Sunday dinner.  They were at home in the woods. They loved the outdoors…it didn’t matter if they were working at the sawmill, or going hunting.

Nowadays, most hunters hunt from behind blinds.  They set up for the day in a likely speciific location and wait for the deer to come to them.  Not Chip and Paul.  They walked all day long…over mountains, around swamps, though the forest.  They were constantly on the go, tracking them, looking for runways, looking for their beds, driving them…anything to gain the upper hand and spot them.

I asked Chip to tell me a hunting story, and what a treat it was to hear him excitedly recall the event.  It had been many years ago, but he told it like it happened yesterday.  Listen in while he invites us to the hunt one fall day.

Jim Dayton interviews Chester Dayton circa 1990

Dr. Donald Dayton Rememberances

If you would like to Send a rememberence for me to publish, please forward it to jim.dayton@att.net

Paul Dayton, Almost a Big Shot

I never knew about my dad’s [Paul Dayton] military rank until I found it in a news clipping as I was researching him. Paul was the Navy’s equivalent of an Army Sergeant.  He was a 1st Class Petty Officer.  There are four grades of Petty officer, 3rd class being the lowest and Chief Petty Officer being the highest.  The Army equivalent would be a Corporal or Sergeant depending upon which grade of Petty Officer you were. 

Paul worked on technological improvements to the recently invented RADAR and had told me that the Navy regarded the men in his unit [aviation bomber training unit] to be more elite than the naval pilots.  Apparently, the military top brass viewed their pilots as expendable; it was a high casualty assignment, but Paul had so much electronics training and skill that he was too difficult and costly to replace.  The naval officers treated the men in his unit in high esteem.  They rewarded the men, including dad, by allowing them to promote themselves. For example, dad’s head of his unit let the men promote themselves to the rank each man felt he deserved.   Most became Chief Petty Officers, but you know dad.  He promoted himself to 1st class, instead of chief.  Chief would have meant more money, but dad was realistic about the matter. 

Here’s a story which demonstrates the knowledge and creativity of dad’s unit.  They solved an electronics problem which Massachusetts Institute of Technology [MIT] scientists declared impossible to solve.  MIT was so impressed that they send a contingent of scientists to dad’s unit to review the problem’s solution and how they went about solving it.  I don’t know what dad individually accomplished on that project, but his colleagues were the best in the world at what they did.  I imagine that dad was right in the middle of it all.  He never talked about it because he didn’t want to brag.  He was too humble.

After the war, dad was offered a lucrative contract in the Philippines by Philco Corp, but dad chose to return to the Adirondacks.  Shame on me, but I cannot find that Philco offer letter anywhere. I used to have it and I’ve lost it.

The “Dayton Twins” Reunited

After 70+ years, the “Dayton Twins” reunited in the hills of eastern North Carolina at the wedding of Alexis Dayton Luckey (daughter of Jack and Camilla Dayton Lucky; granddaughter of Charles Dayton) to Ryan Carey in late October, 2019.  Several members of the Dayton and Luckey clans were in attendance but it was the presence of “the twins” that was most noticeable, at least to those two.  Deane Dayton (son of Wilbur & Donna Dayton) and David Hayes (son of Quentin and Isabelle Dayton Hayes; grandson of Charles Dayton) were born in Marion, Indiana, two days apart in May, 1949.  David was born on May 22nd and Deane was born on May 24th.  David’s father, Kent, was a student and student-pastor at Marion College in Marion, Indiana.  Dean’s father, Wilbur (Uncle Wib) was on the faculty there.  When the boys were born, their moms shared a hospital room as well.  Both boys were robust and healthy and were welcomed into their families with great joy.  David was the first child for Kent and Izzie and Deane was the 3rd child in his family with an older brother and sister already at home.  Their lives would briefly intersect later in life but their initial entry into the world would be their first “sustained interaction.”  [An interesting sidelight: five of the people at the table at the wedding reception were born in Marion General Hospital: Deane & wife Carol, Janet (Deane’s sister) Dayton Manley, and David & Keith Hayes.

            Two years later, David’s family moved to Springfield, Mass., (by now, with brother, Keith, two years younger) where Kent pastored and help build the sanctuary of the Wesleyan Church there. After, two years, Kent and family went south to Wilmore, KY, where he attended Asbury Seminary for 3 years.  Feeling called to the chaplaincy, Kent also attended Chaplain School in NY during the summer and became an Army Chaplain in the summer of 1957.  That same summer, before the move to the first assignment, Fort Hood, TX, the Wilbur Dayton family also moved to Wilmore where Uncle Wib took a position on the faculty of the seminary and Aunt Donna served on the faculty of Asbury College and as a public school librarian.  Deane & David played together that summer before the move once again separated them. 

            Fast forward 15 years, past many other relocations and experiences, Dave & Deane, now young adults, met briefly when Deane came to visit Dave’s parents in Phoenixville, PA, while he was stationed at Fort Dix, NJ. He had joined the U.S. Army Reserves in 1971 and was sent to Fort Dix for Basic Training and training as a Radio Operator.  While there, Deane used a week-end pass to visit Cousin Izzie & family.  One of his memories of the visit is when, arriving by train, he was told that the nearby movie theater was used as a set for “The Blob” movie.  He also remembered spending a few hours in the basement working on a case for an electronics project he was building.

            At the time, Dave had just graduated from Houghton College and had started his teaching career in a nearby school district while living at home with his folks.  He became engaged to Kathy Harpp at Christmastime, 1972, and they were married the following July.  Dave continued  to teach while he and Kathy both earned Masters degrees (Dave in school counseling and Kathy in elementary education).  The family grew: daughter Heather was born in 1974, son Jeremy in 1977, daughter Emily in 1982 and son Ben in 1983.  In 1979, Dave switched school districts and became an elementary school counselor.  Over his career in education, he taught 5th & 6th grade for 10 years and was a school counselor for 26 years, retiring in 2007.  Twelve years into his counseling career, Dave was invited to be an adjunct professor in the same counseling department he had attended.  He continued to teach part-time at the graduate counseling department at West Chester University for the next 16 years and then for 8 years after he retired from public school.  Meanwhile, Kathy had returned to the classroom, teaching 3rd grade for almost 20 years in a small town with an urban setting, retiring in 2012.      

Meanwhile, Deane’s educational and professional careers were beginning.  He and Carol were married on June 2, 1969, in a roof-top chapel in Louisville in a 17-story building which now bears a huge picture of Colonel Sanders that can be seen from I-65.  They both attended Marion College and then returned to Kentucky as teachers in Nicholasville, a few miles from Wilmore.  While there, Carol earned a masters from Eastern Kentucky University and Deane spent his summers at Randolph-Macon Women’s College where he earned a master’s degree in Science Teaching in a National Science Foundation Summer Science Institute. 

In 1973, Deane & Carol moved to Bloomington, IN, where Carol taught in a nearby school system while he worked on his PhD.  Deane then served on facilities of the University of Virginia and Indiana University.  Their son, Chris, was born there in Bloomington in 1975.  In 1983, they moved to Charlotte, NC, where Deane worked for a company that developed Computer-Based Training.  In 1985 they again moved to Huntsville where Deane worked for Intergraph Corporation (a computer graphics company) to coordinate the development of their end-user technical documentation. In 1998, they moved to Princeton where he worked for Berlitz in their language translation division which had offices in over twenty countries.  During that time, Carol and Deane were able to travel to many of those offices & nearby tourist sites.  From 2002 until 2004, Deane commuted to the office in Washington, DC, where he led the team that provided interpreters for the U. S. Immigration Courts.  In 2005, they returned to Huntsville to work for Intergraph deploying Computer-Aided Dispatch systems for 911 Centers. 

Deane retired in 2013 and have been doing volunteer work archiving local history materials.  Currently, there are more than one million digital images stored on a server in my closet that is accessible to anyone at http://dkdayton.net .

As Deane and Dave were growing up, their mothers reminded them of how “the twins” had shared hospital experience. Deane had only been to Corinth a few times since his childhood while  Dave had lived there for a year while in elementary school and visited when the family traveled between Army assignments.  Carol & Deane passed through on their honeymoon and he and Dave both attended Charles’ funeral in Corinth—another “twin sighting”.   Deane was there for the 1998 Dayton Reunion and he has particularly fond memories of these last two visits.

It would seem that Deane & Dave were destined to see each other infrequently and, due to geography, would be separated, perhaps, forever.  But that didn’t happen thanks to the Dayton wedding in Hot Springs, NC, last fall.  Until they arrived individually, they didn’t know of their impending reunion so the surprise was doubly pleasant.  They reconnected immediately and spent much of their time reminiscing, catching up on each other’s lives and comparing family notes.  They exchanged home and email addresses and phone numbers just to make sure the bonds reestablished in the Appalachians would remain strong.  Along with Deane’s wife, Carol and Dave’s wife, Kathy, it was an extra treat to have Deane’s sister, Janet (and husband, Mike), and Dave’s brother, Keith (and wife, Leslie), share in the celebration along with cousin/aunt Cammie Dayton Luckey—an unexpected Dayton family reunion that will long be remembered.

Deane Dayton, Keith Hayes, Cammie Luckey, Dave Hayes, Jan Manley

 So when someone separates “twins” at birth, don’t be sure that they won’t find each other in the future and reconnect in stronger, more meaningful ways.  That’s just what happened to the Marion Dayton “Twins”—Deane and Dave!

Luckey – Carey Marriage

Alexis Dayton Luckey was joined in marriage to Ryan Carey on October 26, 2019, in the Appalachian mountains village of Hot Springs, North Carolina, near Asheville.

Alexis is the younger daughter of Camilla Dayton Luckey and John Richard Luckey, of Clearwater, Florida and South Hill, Virginia. Ryan is the son of William and Kathleen Carey of Kensington, Maryland

Alexis and Ryan were introduced by a mutual friend in NYC a few years ago. The North Carolina mountains are a favorite hiking spot, only a few hours from Durham, North Carolina, where they reside.

Daytons in attendance included Camilla’s nephews David and Keith Hayes and their respective spouses, Kathy and Leslie, and Camilla’s cousins Deane Dayton and Jannie Dayton Manley and their respective spouses, Carol and Michael.

Alexis’ older sister, Jaclynn-Camille Brooks Luckey Sadler, was also in attendance, as were her two sons, Hayden and Joseph.

Did a Husband used to Possess a Wife?

Have you noticed how the wife’s given name is hardly ever mentioned in pre-1960 news articles?  For exmple, it was always written as Mr. and Mrs. Wilber Dayton, instead of Wilber and Jessie Dayton. It was not at all uncommon to read news like “Mrs. Wilber Dayton entered the hospital today. ” instead of “Jessie Dayton entered the hospital today.” I’ve even seen obituaries where the deceased woman’s given name is never mentioned.  She was always referred to as Mrs. “Husband’s name” “surname.” It’s a shame that we treated the wife as a possession of the husband. I presently have in my possession, the church minutes of the Corinth Wesleyan Methodist church dating all the way back to the 1800’s. Grandma Dayton, for some reason, is the only female in the books with this desgnation (Mrs. Wilber Dayton or Mrs. Dayton). I have not found her to be referred to as Jessie. All other married females were referred to by their given name, i.e.-Cora, Alma, Mabel, Blanche, Mary, Elizabeth, Ruth, etc. (This makes it difficult for genealogists. They might find it difficult to locate Jessie Dayton). I wonder if it was a distinction of respect.

The following article illustrates this problrm. The article is the annoucement of a Dayton family reunion. Of all of the invitations, the only exception is an invitation to Mrs. Flossie Denton. This was very unusual and was an afront to husband George who was not even invited to the affair. He was estranged from the Dayton family, and the afrontery was definitely intentional.

The Watch

If you found a watch lying in the street, what would you do?  If you were poorer than a church mouse, would you say, “God is Good, He just gave me a new watch?”  If you were greedy, would you say, “too bad sucker, it’s mine now?”  If you were rich, would you just leave it there for some other lucky person to find?

Jessie Belle (White) Dayton

Do you know what our gramma, Jessie Belle Dayton, did?  Our gramma Jessie, who WAS poorer than a church mouse?  She went to the newspaper office with her “widows’ mite”, purchased a classified advertisement hoping she could find its owner and return it.  How many people do you think would do that?  Was she nuts?  Had she gone off the deep end?  Or was she someone with exceptional integrity?  Someone with exceptional generosity?  She probably used grocery money to pay for the ad.  Thank you, gramma, for walking like you talked.  You taught us well.